Last few weeks I was facing major writer’s block. Why? Because I was stuffing my mind with useless thoughts. I used to go on a thinking spree at the drop of a hat. I continued the trip of incoherent thoughts till I realised that I was overthinking.
Why was I overthinking?
I started analysing. Sadly I realised that I was straying from my self-love path. The one I carved with much effort and pain. If you have been following my self-love series, you would know how I attained. So it was time to retrace the voyage, I realised. This is how I attained it.
Analysing the flag-off point
You should ask yourself what your trigger is. Is it someone who talks behind your back? Could it be someone who thinks lowly about you? Are there are a cult of people who conspire against you?
If yes is the answer, one final question. Do you care about them? If the answer is no, why do you care? If it is yes, go to talk to them. What are you breeding doubts?
Identifying the pitstops
Now that you have set out for the trip, you need to slow down and prepare to detour. Your pitstop should be when you decide and make yourself believe that, whoever it is doesn’t have the value to affect you.
How to attain it? The answer is there in my previous post identifying the trigger.
Way back to destination
Now you have cut off the concern about “What he/she is talking/thinking about me.” You have been stuffing your brain for a while with these thoughts. But now there is a void left. What next? It’s time to look around and bring some positivity.
Go and hug the one whom you love the most. It can be you kids, parents, spouses, lovers, friends or anyone for that matter. Spend a day virtually or in person.
Fill the void with love, happiness and peace.
It is a false notion that detaching yourself from everything to attain ultimate happiness. It is a faux. No one, at least no one with a family, would be happy by detachment. Attachment with self acualisation is the key. You should accept yourself as you are. Additionally, accept others as they are. If someone is condescending, to you let them be. That’s their nature and that has nothing to do about your they are expressing their grief or insecurities in a certain way.
What you have to do about it?
Nothing! Be yourself, love yourself, and be in your happy zone. Attain it without hurting anyone or being hurt yourself. I have already mentioned in my previous posts. Identify you trigger stay away, find your passion and embrace it. Accept yourself and others as is and don’t get affected.
Most importantly, know your worth and nurture yourself. Becuae there is nothing in the universe that can prevent you from loving yourself. As I always say, if you cant love the sould that is with you for so many years, who else can. But, make srue you do so without hurting anyone, without being selfish. Not hurting someone doesn’t mean that you should condone victim plays. Identify the pretence. I will talk about it in the next post.