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Happinetz Ensures Internet Safety For Kids
Increased screen time in kids has become the reason for mothers’ sleepless nights. During and after the pandemic the kids are using online learning resources more than before. It has also pulled our kids into a whirlpool of addictive virtual reality. While family time and reading time take a back seat, internet safety for kids has slithered into the minds of mothers, occupying their thoughts. There is a dilemma of not being able to monitor kids enough and at the same time, not wanting to be a prying mother when it comes to internet usage and screen time. That’s when Happinetz became the 2 a.m. friend to the mother who can share this humongous burden of guilt and helplessness.
Internet Safety For Kids
No two kids are the same. While my sons love to play Roblox, my daughter likes K dramas. On one hand, the thought of whether they meet strangers through interactive games gnawed in my mind. On the other hand, the worry about whether the series my daughter was watching was age-appropriate was overwhelming me. I wanted to have a check on all these without pressuring them or invading their privacy. So, I didn’t want to go about blocking all browsers, on all devices. I wanted some space where I could monitor them in one place.
While I was thinking about a solution for my never-ending worry, I got hold of Happinetz, which provides safe internet for kids and helps with screen time management. It was a huge relief.
Stress-free monitoring
Being a Happinetz parent, I feel empowered to get a solution that’s easy. The installation process is very simple. All you have to do is connect your Happinetz Box to your home router, download the app on your phone, and add the devices that your children use. You can set screen time schedules as per your child’s age and need.
Additionally, the content the children can now access is age-appropriate and secure. After I installed Happinetz my kids could open only age-appropriate games on any device. By default, they are not able to open certain inappropriate apps that they tried earlier. I can also check the Insights of their internet usage at my convenience without the conflict of telling kids what to use and what not to.
As my kids have ADHD, controlling their screen time was much needed because as their doctor told me, screen time and hyperactivity are directly related. The first step of the ADHD therapy, their doctor said, is to keep a check on their screen time. This is because the fast movement on the screen would force their brain to run faster. With Happinetz, I am able to enforce screen time rules with ease and without any arguments.
Easy Management
With Happinetz, the advantage is that I don’t have to log into each device to check what they are accessing. I am able to check Insights for up to 10 devices in the household through one parent app. With this, Happinetz has created a new benchmark for internet safety for kids.
What touched me is that it is designed from a parent’s point of view. They know what we need and provide it in a single place. There’s only one app installed on the parent phone and nothing is installed on your child’s devices. They just need to be connected to Happinetz WiFi.
Internet safety for kids across devices
As I said before, my kids have different likes and dislikes. With Happinetz I could ensure internet safety for kids with ease as it is applicable to all browsers, devices, and even TV. This was the most promising surprise for me because, with the onset of smart TV, it’s difficult for parents to check what children are watching. But with Happinetz, I can be stress-free about what they’re watching.
No more unsafe content
Every day, new social media platforms, unsecured websites, and apps are sprouting. I am not even aware of many of them but my kids are so curious that they want to see and feel everything new. However, so much of this content can be age-inappropriate and unsafe. With Happiness, I don’t need to worry at all. More than 110 million websites and apps are being monitored and tracked as per the system and more than 22 million adult and unsecured websites and apps are blocked by default by Happinetz.
Multi-level filtering technology
We cannot take our kids out of the world of the internet in the name of internet safety for kids. They need to explore, do assignments, and independently handle their tasks with the help of the Internet. It is unfair to say that using the internet is bad for our kids. With Happinetz we can let our kids explore the world of knowledge without even accidentally stumbling upon inappropriate content. With multi-level filtering technology, Happinetz has ensured that all popular and well-known methods of bypassing the system have been taken care of.
Privacy
While using any app, infringement of privacy has been my highest point of worry. But Happinetz doesn’t collect any personal data on kid’s devices. This is the most important highlight if you ask me.
No judgement
While the thin line between gentle parenting and unmonitored parenting has started to blur and social media talks about excessive parental control, I was worried about being judged. But with Happinetz I feel supported in my journey to provide internet safety to my kids.
Ease of use
The only thing to get internet safety for kids is to install Happinetz and download the app. Once the app is set in your phone, the rest is sorted.
With exhaustive filtering, a customizable internet schedule, and insights that enable the parent to check which websites their child used and for how long, Happinetz has transformed into my go-to friend and therapist who has the solution for the root cause of the problem.
I have been trying to enforce a routine to keep my kids’ hyperactive brains on track but to make them turn off the devices after coming back from school was a stress inducer for me. But since the devices have turned off as per the schedule now, this chaos is also sorted. Now that I can schedule their screen time they have ample time to play with each other, read books, and connect with nature.
A small gift from me
Now that you know the ins and outs of the benefits of Happinetz, I’m sure you can’t wait to ensure internet safety for kids. While you are at it, you get a special discount by clicking here. Get your Happinetz Box and say bye-bye to your worries because they have got you covered with their Safe Internet for Kids
Puberty In Girls – Every Mother’s Worry
Gone are the days when puberty is considered synonymous with teenagers. As the years go by, girls as young as 8-9 years attain puberty and it is becoming the new normal. As much as we blame the junk food, aginomoto, hormone infused chicken, or milk, we need to be prepared and accept the fact the pubert in girls is a normal process.
Girls grow fast:
My daughter graduated to middle school yesterday. Surprisingly I was not feeling happy about it. I just don’t want her to grow. While I discussed with fellow mothers, a common thought that we shared was the girls grow fast while the boys still remain the molly cuddled little ones. It doesn’t mean that the girls don’t like to be pampered or we don’t pamper them. But yes! They are changing – look-wise, attitude-wise, perspective-wise. One look at her picture a year back brought me to tears. How my baby has changed!
I had enough of panicking and losing sleep over puberty in girls. Come what may our girls have to be there one day. Early or late, they have to be prepared and we have to prepare them.
Prepare them
My daughter has a sort of phobia towards the sight of blood. So the first step into preparation was to let her know that red, slimy, stinky blood would come out of her intimate area without panicking her.
We had ditched the baby talks about private parts long back. So, they are no longer caught off-guard with the terms Vagina and Penis.
Let them know that the genital area around the vagina is called vulva.
Educate your boys along
I had my seven-year-old son sit with me while I was explaining puberty in girls to her. His reaction was “wow boys are so lucky. We don’t have to face this”. The basic thought ingrained in us was coming naturally to my boy. Now, it was time to address this. To let him know that not having to bear the pain and discomfort doesn’t make him superior. I told him that girls are bearing the pain every month for a generation to come by. I am quite not sure if I put it the right way.
The next question my daughter asked was that, if I don’t want kids in future, why should I bear the pain unnecessarily.
This caught me off-guard. Why? Because I was not prepared myself.
Prepare yourself
Make sure you are prepared to face the uncomfortable questions. Primarily, while preparing your kids don’t portray periods as something unfair. While we women would find it unfair in the long run, I think you should not sow the seed of the “unfair” thought in your child.
I told them that periods happen to women because they are strong enough to handle it. Was I being sexist to my son? I genuinely don’t know. But at that point I didn’t know a better way to put it.
Prepare yourself to accept the fact that your little being is going to undergo the natural changes, like it or not. Keep your emotions in leash.
Observe the changes
Common signs of puberty would be the following
- Breast buds develop
- Hair growth in the armpits and pubic area
- Growth spurt
- Developing acne
While these are the most common signs, some girls sweat more, show mood swings, or become quieter.
Sex educate them
To let them know about intercourse is very important. Their curiosity would be at its peak and if you don’t want them to develop any unscientific thoughts about sex, educate them well. Tell them that the feeling of attraction that they might feel to a boy would be normal. Don’t beat around the bushes when they ask their doubts. Be clear and explain.
Let them know their body
Would you be surprised if I tell you that there are still women out there who don’t know about clitoris, G-spot or orgasm for that matter. Not girls, but full grown women with kids even. Don’t shy away from explaining everything appropriate to their age.
Make sure your child doesn’t have to depend on external sources gain knowledge about their body and sex at large.
Keep cotton pads handy
Keep a cotton pad inside your daughter’s bag even if she has not had her first periods. We cannot predict when this big change would come knocking at the door. Let them be prepared and teach them how to use it.
Puberty in girls and boys is something that we cannot control but we can very well control how they handle it. Don’t be their friends but be their friendly parents.
Adenoiditis – Causes, Symptoms And Treatment
I have been asked time and again as to why I am not sharing my motherhood journey anymore. Frankly speaking, I was going through the worst writer’s block in my career as a blogger. Come what may, the writing was not giving me any satisfaction. That’s when I tried several tips and tricks to get over it. I have shared in my post how to overcome writer’s block in my blog Outset. So I am back, sharing my experiences, travails and predicaments as a unicorn mom and a mom of three with the latest post on adenoiditis.
ADENOIDITIS :
My daughter, hardly slept more than half n hour a day. We even got her EEG checked because the child was not sleeping at all. But why? Slowly intermittent cold, allergy, tonsillitis and ear pain became a part of her life.
That’s when I consulted an ENT physician. The instant he looked at her, he said that she has adenoiditis. The endoscopy was done and in no time her surgery was fixed. It happened so fast that I couldn’t wrap my head around.
Doc suggested a nasal spray for three months and scheduled fur surgery three months later to check of the nasal spray would work. No miracle was to be expected as her nose was 75 per cent blocked.
As with any other momma, my next step was GOOGLE MATA, who made me “an expert” in adenoid glands.
Whoa REVELATION! My second child snores like an adult. Time to get him checked because”ADENOIDITIS IS GENETIC” and he had the symptoms. As expected, his adenoids were also enlarged and blocked 90% of his nasal passage. My poor baby was suffering and I didn’t even know.
So, what to do in such situations? If it’s genetic why didn’t I have it? Or did I have it? Apparently, I used to have difficulties as a child. But never knew about Adenoids. Hence I had to push through with vaporising thinking that it is wheezing due to chest congestion. By the time I was 18 I cured automatically. If you wish ti wait, you can do so either. It might be cured by itself. But I dodnt want my kids to suffer. Hence I opted surgery.
Treatment options for adenoidectomy:
1. Medicines
As a first option, allopathic doctors prescribe antibiotics to treat the infection and reduce the size of the adenoid gland as much as possible.
Alternatives medicines like Ayurveda and homoeopathy can also be relied on.For my kids, since I have been undergoing encirclage ( stitching the uterus) for all pregnancies and subsequent antibiotics and hormone infections, my kids never responded to alternative medicine.
2. Nasal Spray
If the blockage is less than 50% adenoiditis can be cured with nasal spray in most cases. Unfortunately, mothers are unaware of the disease and the symptoms that despite being a mother of three even I took 7 years to consult an ENT. By the time, the adenoids would have grown beyond help. Hence I suggest you to consult a doctor if you doubt that your child has the symptoms.
3. Surgery
Adenoidectomy is technically a minor surgery but since my kids were small ( 7 and 5) it was equivalent to a major surgery. Right from giving anaesthesia to aftercare, it was a nightmare. Looking back I am startled how we could push through. My little one was at my place for a week – the longest I stayed away from since I got him back from NICU.
Sometimes doctor suggest removal of tonsils along with adenoids. For my son both glands were removed simultaneously. It is called adenoidotonsilectomy. It is way more painful for kids.
The surgery is performed orally. Hence there would not be a peripheral incision. Nonetheless, it is painful. My daughter recovered in a day or two as only her devoid was removed.
Aftercare:
1. Give them cold food.
Their throat would be extremely sensitive. Hence the food must be cold, non-spicy. You can give them fruit juice but citrus fruits are a big NO. Ice cream and yoghurt are the best choices. It was a gala time for my kids with numerous family pack ice creams. Within three days, the started rejecting ice cream.2. Give them soft food
The food should be soft like jellos, oats etc.
Remember that the food is passing through a tract that has been scraped clean.3. Keep gargling
Gargling would be painful and kids refuse to do it. But howsoever they resist or cry you should not let them skip the gargling part. It fastens the recovery and I can vouch for it.
4. Give them ample rest
Even though they are in pain, they tend to play around. Try to keep them occupied with board games or even gadgets because we should avoid sweating or even getting hurt.5. Continue nasal spray
The doctor would prescribe the nasal spray. You have to continue it for at least three months or as much as the doctor says.Adenoidectomy is a minor surgery. It would be extremely painful for your child. But you can let them pass the phase with patience and presence of mind.
My two kids underwent it simultaneously. I had to be assertive with them. Sometimes they even said that I am the worst mother when I forced them to gargle. They would be in extreme pain while gargling. But remember that it is to avoid future pain and facilitate east recovery. Harden yourself and be assertive.
Most important: Adenoiditis caused by allergy can be cured with surgery but your child’s irritation towards the allergen won’t go. Don’t think that my child was not cured despite surgery. For allergy you have to treat to separately.
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Taking Care Of Premature Babies – Premature Child Month
Being a mother of three preterm kids, I think I am obliged to do a post on Premature child month. As much as we all know that preterm baby is a child born before 36 week of pregnancy, we are unaware of how to handle a premie till we have one.
Going into premature delivery is not in anyone’s hands. No one would deliberately want to take the risk of having a child who is at risk. But what if you have one? How to take care of a premature child?
Reasons for premature childbirth:
There could be many reasons for a premature delivery.
Early pregnancy, late pregnancy, fluid break, twin pregnancy, incompetent cervix, high BP, and many more. This could be hereditary as well.
Taking care of a premature child:
You will be appalled to see the teeny tiny creature. You will be left wondering what to do with such a small child. But not to worry. Three time expert is here. No pun intended.
1. Maintain the warmth
Uterus is a space where the child is most protected and kept warm. Your child is out in the world at a time he/she should be floating in the warmth of the womb. You cannot recreate it. But you can definitely do what you can.
Wrap your child in several layers of clothing. You can refer to winter clothing tips because your child.should be dressed up as if going out in winter. Avoid using A/C or fan. The NICU would be air-conditioned but remember, they are kept inside a warmer.
2. Bathing care
Bathing a premie is different from that for a term baby. Because of their tiny size and lack of fat layer under the skin, the will feel cold. Hence it is advisable to wipe them with oil. Yes! Oil.
Apply oil to their whole body. Wipe it off with a thin towel dipped in lukewarm water. Make sure you squeeze out the water from the towel. Pat with a dry towel.
Continue this till your child weighs 2.00 KG. Further, you can start bathing. Avoid massaging them till they are 2.5 to 3 kg.
3. Intermittent breastfeeding
Preterm babies cannot be breastfed like a term baby. Their sucking reflects will. not be strong. Their lungs will also not be fully developed. Hence they will be tired soon. Hence it is imperative to feed them intermittently. There are exceptions. My second child was quite masterful in filling his stomach. With him I could do the ‘feed every 2 hours rule’ But he was not quite a pre term. He was born just after 35 weeks. ie a month early. See how your child feeds and decide accordingly. You are the mother. You know better.
3. Isolate them
No matter how offended your friends and relatives would be, don’t flaunt your child around like private property. They are in a world where they don’t belong for the next one or two months. The body is not equipped to accept and accommodate the microbes in the air. Hence isolate your child. Tell everyone not to visit your child. Ask the visitors, if any, to stay at a distance. And DON’T let anyone hold your child.
I have heard comments like “she behaves as if we haven’t seen any children.” But little did I care.
4. Extra moisturisation
If you have seen preterm, you can relate to what I say. Their skin would be dry, flaky, and hairy. Little hairs called lanugo are shed in the last trimester of pregnancy. Since they came early they have the lanugo. Their skin can never have enough moisture to keep them soft. Hence, we genius in moisturizing your child. Often preterms tend to develop skin issues in the later stages of their life. Hence we can prepare early.
5. Kangaroo mother care
This technique is quite common abroad for both preterms and term babies. But in India, it has just started getting recognition.
Remove the dress on your upper body, including the undergarments. After feeding and burping your child, lay him/her stomach down on your bare chest. Cover with a bed cover and lie down for as much time as possible. This is to compensate for the loss of time inside the womb.
These are a few points to keep in mind while taking care of a preterm baby. They will lag behind in everything starting from rolling on the stomach. Calculate their milestones according to their due date. And then see if they are reaching the milestones or not.
Having a premature baby is not a matter of concern. It is a matter of pride because they are months ahead of everyone.
Traveling With Kids During COVID Times
Covid time have been scary for adults and kids alike. syteeping our with kids is a nightmare. More so, if your child is a naughty little brat. I can understand your. I have been there. I have three little hellions who were ready to burst out at a drop of a hat. And so we were travelling with kids during the COVID times. Not 1, not 2 but 3. Can you beat that.
The planning nightmare:
If you have been following my posts, you might know that I don’t plan my trips in advance. But this time, I had to. Ww researched on a plethora of options and finally ruled out the option for a stay over. We started early in the morning and reached the property a little late for breakfast. So, what are the precautions that we took?
Travelling with kids during COVID:
We have taken the following precautions while we set out.
Keep spare masks ready
Kids play around and tend to drop the masks everywhere they run around. It is extremely risky to keep it back. This applies during the non-COVID times as well. Always keep a spare mask.
Carry sanitizing wipes
Kids always touch everywhere. It might not be feasible to make then handwash every now and then. we cannot make them sanitize their hands without cleaning them. So we are left with one option – Wipes. Keep sanitizing wipes handy while travelling with kids during COVID or otherwise as well.
Keep sanitizer spray ready
The place where we went had swings, slides, and what not. Kids were uncontrollable after months of jailing them. But how can we trust these swings? Would other kids sit there? I was getting anxious.The sanitizer sprays came to my rescue. I kept on spraying all over the places where my kids might play and touch.
Book private properties
The one I booked was not a private property. Rhis property named Vagamon Heights had separate cottages that were way apart from each other. Hence idea of social distancing was applicable.
Carry trash bags
This is applicable in all times. You must make your child accountable of keeping their country clean and preventing litter. Let them inculcate the habit of carrying a trash bag and take accountability of their trash.
Avoid Long Trips
Try to keep the trips short so that you don’t have to have many pitstops. Lets exposure the better.
Keep first aid kit with medicines handy
This tip is applicable in all time but especialy during COVID, try to avoid hospital visits in unknown places. Hence keep your first aid kits and medicines ready. I even had a nebuliser, just in case.
Carry toiletries, towels etc
You should avoid using the towels of the properties you stay in. This is advisable in all time. I used to even carry bed spreads because of this fear. Sounds crazy, I know but this makes me rest assured. Why lose sleep over silly things?
Educate your child
This is the most important. You child is way matured than you think. You child need to take an effort educate your child abour sanitizing, wearing mask the right way, not eating out and many more simple facts which they could take care of themselves.
So, set off with your littles ones for a safe, rejuvenating and exciting travel experience.
How to be a perfect mother?
Why isn’t my child like other kids?
Am I a failure as a mother?
Am I too harsh? Am I too soft?
How can I handle them?
Why didn’t my child potty train before two?
Why is my child a fussy eater and none of the tips I see around work?
Some of you would have asked this question to yourself. You would have researched the parenting guides. You would have diligently followed your social media idol to see how they do it perfectly.
But have you ever asked what makes your child different?
BECAUSE YOUR CHILD IS AN INDIVIDUAL.
Would a top-loading washing machine and front loading washing machine give the same result? Would a Samsung oven and LG oven give the same results?
Then, WHY DO YOU EXPECT YOUR HUMAN CHILD TO BE LIKE ANOTHER CHILD OR CHILDREN AROUND.
You can try to apply the parenting tips and tricks that you see around. But if they don’t work out, it’s not your fault, nor your child’s. It’s because your child is different. You should be happy that your child has an individuality.
You would have wondered how another child remains calm and composed, while your child is unmanageable. Have you ever asked the other child’s mother how she feels about it?
She might be wondering when her child would be active like yours.
ABOVE ALL. THE SOCIAL MEDIA IS A WORLD OF FILTERS. WE ARE ONLY SHOWN THE RAINBOW BUT THE CLOUDS BEHIND ARE OFTEN CONCEALED.
So don’t compare your life with the perfect lives portrayed on social media. It’s just a virtual world. Not the real one.
SO HOW TO BE A PERFECT MOTHER?
ANS: PERFECT MOTHER IS A MYTH, IF NOT A FACADE
What is the real awareness of breastfeeding that we should have?
Breast feeding awareness week is going on. Everyone is talking about the importance of breastfeeding and also breastfeeding in public. It is commendable that contrary to the past aversion in many women regarding breastfeeding connected to their own body and health, people are indeed showing interest in the topic. So what is the awareness that we need to spread
Exclusive breastfeeding
1. For the first 6 months, the child should be fed exclusively on breastmilk.
2. The more you breastfeed, the more you lose weight
3. The more you breastfeed the more immune your child becomes.
4. You shouldn’t be ashamed of feeding in public.
Well n good. All these points are the best advice to be given to a mother.
But what if a mother is not in a position to exclusively breastfeed the child?
The pressure of the society, the judgements, the frustration of feeling inadequate and what not.
While it is true that breastmilk is the best medicine for the child, we should not judge a mother who is not exclusively breastfeeding her child
She wouldn’t be lactating much to quench the child’s thirst and hunger. The child’s sucking reflex would be week. The child could be in an NICU. The child could have breastmilk intolerance. She might have to have take medications which could be dangerous to child. She could be a working mother who had to rejoin early for work. Worst of all, the mother and child could be having some serious disease which could make breastfeeding all the more dangerous for both.
There could be many genuine reasons for not exclusively breastfeeding the child or weaning early.
Why would the society decide what she should do with her child? Why is it imperative to tab her as a beauty conscious, figure conscious bimbo just because she is not exclusively breast feeding the child/weans early? For some people it is a cruel ecstasy to state how long did they breast feed their child, to a mother who weaned early.
WHAT SHOULD THE MOTHER ACTUALLY DO?
If you are a healthy woman, with ample breastmilk, with a healthy baby whose sucking reflexes are well developed, and also a stay at home mother breastfeed your child exclusively for 6 months.
If you are not any or all of these. Do what’s best for your child and yourself because only a healthy mother can bring up a healthy baby.
DON’T FEEL GULTY.
DON’T LEND YOUR EARS TO JUDGEMENTAL PEOPLE.
DON’T THINK OF YOURSELF AS ANY LESS THAN OTHER MOTHERS.
Breastfeeding in public
If you feel ashamed of breastfeeding in public, there is nothing wrong with you. That’s also your personal choice but yeah, there are indeed options for the same.
We have feeding bibs available these days. If that’s expensive for you, get a ‘PONCHO TOP’. It’s available cheap in the market. Put if over your head and feed your child.
Excavate your Passion #A2AChallenge2020 #SelfLove
To tell someone to forget the past, to move on and concentrate on yourself is easy but on a practical ground, it is equally tough. It seems impossible at some point and all you would care about is how it is going to affect your image, future and character at large. The first thought in your mind would be that your enemy would be happy to hear your bad news. In short, your thoughts are clouded by someone else’s happiness rather than your own sadness.
To keep your thoughts away from all these, you need to get yourself engaged. No, you are wrong. I didn’t mean hobby. I meant passion. We watch movies, listen to music, read books etc. These are all our shortcuts out of the trauma but seldom do we realise that after the first 9 or 10 minutes your mind would disconnect from your body and starts going back to the epicenter of problems. After a while only we would realize that we have not been successful in this diversion. This is because all these hobbies mentioned are for the entertainment of the senses but whay we apparently need is not entertainment but the truth is that we need to engage our brain and start doing that which make use of the brain and we would be busy with it. It is the best therapy for us.
Recognising your passion is important. That which interests one might not be interesting for other. That which doesn’t seem interesting might indeed be your hidden passion. For instance, I have never counted cooking interesting. I have always been all about books. But at some circumstances I had to wear the chef’s cap. A few cuisine experiments and I realised that I love cooking. Since then, whenever I feel dejected, I cook. The best therapy for me.
Try doing everything possible and see what gives you real happiness and complete satisfaction. Thus excavate your passion and nurture it so that it will keep your brain busy and you no longer have time for processing negativity.
Dealing with Sinusitis- The tried and tested cure.
Of late I came across many kids and adults who have been suffering from Sinusitis. I myself used to struggle with the headache. Now my daughter does. Often for many diseases, the medicine is your experience. It’s not always the theoretical knowledge provided to us by the doctors. Not that they are wrong but we have our own trial and error methods that have worked for us.
Today I am sharing my tried and tested cure for sinusitis.
The best and the easiest medicine is taking steam. It could be done using water boiled with Panikoorka leaves or Tulsi leaves. Tulsi you all know is Basil. Panikoorka is called Indian Borage or Indian Rock Foil or Cuban Oregano
Courtesy: Wikipedia The leaves smell heavenly. By simply smelling the leaves we can have so much comfort from common cold. For more details on the uses of this plant, you can refer to
Panikoorka is helpful only if your headache is mild, so is Tulsi. If you have swollen sinus and severe headache, it is better to take Karvol plus.
I have already used a few capsules. It is a soft green coloured capsule with a silicony feel. It is quite strong as well.We need to cut it open and pour inside the vaporizer or boiling water.
For kids one or two drops would be sufficient. As it has a tingling feel it would be difficult to inhale it if the whole capsule is added.
If inhaling doesn’t help, next step is an ayurvedic preparation.
We need a teaspoon of fresh ginger juice and a pinch of rasnadi choornam.
Crushed ginger Heat the spoon with the ginger juice mixed with Rasnadi choornam directly over the stove till it boils down to a creamy consistency.
Roll it into the size of a 25ps coin and apply it on the pate like shown in the picture.
Do this twice daily for three days. And the results are guaranteed.
Teenagers and trouble
Teenagers are like fire crackers. How safely we handle them is all upto us. We can either make them useless by pouring water or beautiful by giving a slight spark or explosive by giving a full fledged fire. Each teenager is different. Hence how we handle them should be different too.
Teenage is a time when they are introduced to too many new ideas and feelings. However close we are to our kids, it is unavoidable that their friends would be their guides. So how to handle this!
Teenage problem are to be assessed in different levels. What I am discussing is just the basic teenage problem.
1. Friends and Outing
I have heard parents say that ” You can go anywhere you want. I will take you there.” This of one of the most foolish thoughts parents could ever have. Just imagine how you would feel if your mother in law would say the same to you and your husband! In short you are being a mother in law to your own child by saying this. The more you restrain your child, even if in the name of love, the more they tend to rebel and lie to you. Some kids obey their parents like good kids but the level of frustration they build up is insurmountable. So let your teenager be with their friends once in a while.
2. Freedom
The level of freedom we give is a tricky scenario. You need to give them freedom but make sure the reigns are in your hands. But how? Befriend their friends and their parents. Let them choose their friends but make sure they have chosen the right ones. If you feel that they went wrong with any friends, don’t even by mistake tell them this. The next moment they will tell it to their so called friend and start pretending that they are no longer in touch. Instead befriend the one whom you suspect and try to find something that you could use to convince your kid. You need to wear the robes of a cunning fox for your kids at times.
3. Romance
The romantic angle is the greatest fear. This is a generation where not having a boyfriend or girlfriend is considered a handicap. Even if you find out that they are in a relationship, don’t fret over it. Just educate them about relationship like a friend does. Observe them. You can easily gauge it if they are in a toxic relationship. But to let them realise it and help them take a step, you need to be their friend first and parent later.
4. Gadgets and social media
You cannot always monitor their use of gadgets and social media but keep a secret eye. Don’t even by mistake sneak into their profiles like a mole. The moment they find it out, they will create a fake ID. But it doesn’t mean that you need to fear them. Where it is need to be assertive and say NO, you should invariably do so. Kids should know when you say NO, it is serious.
5. TRAINING YOURSELF
This is the most important part. How you succeed in not letting the tensions affect you is most important. Relax and be calm, else, your anxiety will get to your kids. Don’t let them feel that “Oh my parents are suspicious of me. They are always scared etc etc” They should be rest assured that their parents are very cool but simultaneously they should be wary of rubbing you the wrong way. They should also be comfortable in confessing their mistakes to you.
Eventually whatever we do, if they have to get into trouble, they will definitely get into it. We all have been in trouble at some point of life. We cannot wrap them in cotton wool always. Sometimes to learn the biggest lessons of life they need to fall and get up.