We are living in a fast-moving and competitive world where living in peace would be a luxury for many. The surge of social media and the unprecedented upsurge of screentime has considerably reduced the eye-to-eye contact between couples and families at large. Result! Dissatisfaction, sadness, and the feeling of nothingness. This is what I have been going through for a while, The feeling of having nothing when you have everything. The feeling of not knowing what I want and would give me happiness. My venturing into Holistic wellness was to find an answer to this dilemma. Months of pursuance later, I identified my source of peace and happiness and have started my baby steps into it. I formulated my own ultimate peace of mind quote which I follow diligently and live by without fail.
My ultimate peace of mind quote
So, I was trying to figure out my triggers. There were too many but identifying them was my first step of success. Now I have to eliminate my trigger and identify that which pushes me through. That was my mantra of peace. My own peace of mind quote.
Morning coffee, soothing music, sweet nothings with kids, yoga, meditation, my lavender oil, movie time with my partner, reading, writing to the soul’s satisfaction, watching the beauty of nature – I found my source of peace in silliest things and I learned that it is so easy to be happy.
These are my powerhouses.
Coffee and caffeine have always been blamed for spoiled sleep, deteriorating energy, hyper activeness in kids. But of late even scientists are in two minds about the authenticity of these findings. Let me tell you my experience. When I was attending the Health Coach certification course, I was apprehensive about whether I would be able to live up to it as my belief that certain food items that were blamed to be bad, were indeed good, would receive a setback. But SURPRISE! The academy where I took certification from, strongly believed in what others don’t believe. Surprisingly, for me, they concurred with my belief that coconut oil is not bad for health. Likewise, coffee is also not to blame.
I have been regularly having sugarless black coffee for two years and the level of calmness that it gave me is unbelievable
Don’t ask me the reason. Because genuinely I don’t know nor do the scores of scientists around the world.
Music is therapeutic. There is no argument but the kind of music that could give you peace could be different. Know what gives you immense happiness and choose the music that goes with it. For me, it is the slokas and mantras. It could be some soothing music or rock music or folks songs. Listening to what you like is indeed therapy.
Quality time with kids
I am not someone who falls under the “perfect mother” category. I don’t create specific activities, educational or entertainment. Well, with three kids of 2-3 years age difference the need for quality time with mother is menial, or so I believe, Nonetheless, I have my time with my kids when I play ‘stone, paper, scissors, watch Blackpink videos’ or any such seemingly stupid activities for I am a mother who has not grown beyond a teenager when it comes to my kids. I fight with them for ice creams too!
My quality time with kids are punctuated by the silly games and not the quality that you might visualise
But yours could be different and I respect that just like you would mine. And thus, this silly time becomes a part of my therapy and becomes an important part of my peace of mind quote.
Yoga and meditation
Being a certified Yoga instructor and a Yoga enthusiast, Yoga is my definition of prayer. I don’t do it for weight loss. My Yoga journey is the extension of my Holistic Wellness journey. While I hold each poses I have a vision that I hold strong in mind. Amidst the ruckus created by kids, I created a mansion of peace. While meditating I used to alternate ‘Om Chanting’ and the Buddhist chant ‘Nam Yoho Renge Kyo’. If you don’t want the religious connotation, you can chat ‘aaaa’ as in Hindi ‘oooooh’ and ‘maaaa’ which resonates the same way. Meditation is naturally a part of any peace of mind quote that you come across for the amount of calmness that it provides.
You might have seen the funny Whatsapp where a mother is lying down on a bed of lavender to relieve her stress. Jokes apart, lavender indeed has therapeutic power. Aromatherapy being an inherent part of my wellness sessions, I am applying this myself in my life. I put one or two drops of lavender essential oil in my body wash, shampoo, conditioner, lotions, and everything.
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Movie/ webseries time with my partner
If Netflix and Prime video have spoiled relations and aggravated the screen time, it has brought me closer to my husband. We watched numerous movies and web series together. When our tastes don’t match, I would sit with him reading while he would watch. Whatsoever the one hour of proximity was never compromised and it worked wonders in our relationship and my peace and wellness. I had written about this earlier in my post How to overcome libido postpartum.
Reading and writing
Reading and writing were reserved to the last part of my peace of mind quote but the therapeutic effect they have on me is primary. I can ignore everything to read and write and still be happy. When my reading and writing took a back seat, unknowingly I was falling into a pit of despair. Slowly I got back into my writing and believe that I would be able to pursue it consistently.
Nature has an unfathomable influence on my mind. Maybe because of growing up amidst the greenery, I never realized how special it was and how lucky I was to have the ultimate peace mantra around me, day in day out. The moment I realized it, I started indulging in the green bed of happiness and the colorful butterflies and musical birds that adorn our lives.
All these are more contributed to my wellness journey. It doesn’t mean that I never felt angry or sad. I did but whenever I felt so, I knew in my heart that it is not permanent. Living by my own ultimate peace of mind quote has redefined my journey of life and in turn, changed my family as well. More on it coming soon.